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A man in Thailand Married a dead girlfriend to fulfill his promise of love.

29-year old Sarinya Kamsook and her 28-year-old boyfriend, Chadil Deffy, were to be married this year. Sarinya Kamsook unfortunately died in a car crash, just day before the big event, Deffy decided to go on with their wedding as planned and married her.
Sarinya was involved in a car crash, leaving her severely injured. She still could have been saved with timely medical attention. However, the doctors made her wait for 6 hours due to an overcrowded ICU instead of transferring her to another hospital. During this time, she succumbed to her injuries and passed away.

During her funeral in Surin, Thailand, Chadil Duffy placed a ring on his deceased bride’s finger. It thus turned out a wedding/funeral ceremony, one of the rare events in the world.
Till death do us apart...
Those who believe in love please tell me if this is TRUE LOVE or MADNESS?

10 guys you should never marry

Every little girl looks forward to her wedding day. They can't wait to meet the Prince Charming who will sweep them off their feet. But, as you grow older, you realize that nobody's perfect. Your dreams of marrying Prince Charming become dashed away as quickly as the movie ended. So instead of looking for Mr. Perfect, you look for the one who his perfect for you.

As you look for Mr. Right, you try to look past some of bad traits so you can see all the good ones. This is good. It shows that you're not shallow. But, despite how shallow it might seem, there are some guys you should just leave in the dating pool. Here are 10:

1. The commitment-phobe

Finally locked down the guy every girl's been chasing? Well, I got news for you. Just because he finally decided to knuckle down and commit, doesn't mean he's committed. If he used to be a commitment-phobe, he may still be and you'll always wonder how invested in the relationship he really is.

2.The rebel

A lot of women are attracted to the bad boy. There's just something mysterious and romantic about him. But a lot of times the rebel in society is a rebel in marriage. And pretty soon you'll find him rebelling against you, too.

3.The narcissist

Narcissus was an ancient Greek mythological figure who was so beautiful that he fell in love with himself - but because he couldn't leave his own reflection in the water, he eventually drowned. A person who is a narcissist is so convinced of their own greatness that they don't see their weaknesses. Marrying a narcissist is a very one sided relationship. They're always trying to vaunt their own greatness - often at the expense of others.

4.The control freak

Everybody likes to have things their own way. Unfortunately, because men are socialized to express hostility and anger when they don't get what they want, a man who is a control freak can often become intimidating and even abusive (physically or mentally).

5.The I-know-more-than-you

It's a good thing to marry a person for his brains. But be careful because you might end up marrying a know-it-all. And you'll always feel like you're wrong - even if it's just an opinion.

6.The mama's boy

You've heard that how a man treats his mother is how he'll treat you. So you look for a guy who is close to his mom and spends a lot of time with her. But be careful, if he's too close you'll find yourself married to his mother, too. So you better get used to hearing, "My mom doesn't do it that way." And you better get used to his mother being your marriage counselor, too.

7.The pretty boy

Get used to spending your weekends at the mall looking for new clothes instead of going to soccer practice. But at least you'll have a great looking house and car (even if you can't afford it).

8.The pushover

As mentioned before, everybody likes to have their own way. So when you find a guy who lets you do whatever you want and doesn't complain about it, you want to grab him up. But after a while you'll find yourself making all the decisions. And then you'll find yourself complaining because he doesn't pull his own weight.

9.The manly man

This guy talks about sports, beer and hunting all the time. Sure, he's rugged but you better be prepared to change all the diapers and do all the housework. And forget about him getting you something nice for Valentine's Day because real men don't do that mushy stuff.
he fitness freak

10.Who doesn't want a guy with chiseled abs and nice arms? But despite all his good (physical) traits you may soon find that the gym is taking up an exorbitant amount of time in your family's life. And you'll find yourself using phrases like "did you beat your PR today, honey?" But more importantly, a man who lets the gym run his life has let the servant become the master and you'll soon find that he has other priorities out of whack, too.

Yes, there are bits and pieces of these personality traits in every Prince Charming. But just make sure they're only bits and pieces or you'll find yourself married to a frog instead of a Prince.

12 Things That Are More Harmful Than Cheating

Cheating is definitely one quick, big way to absolutely annihilate a relationship, but as a recent Ask Reddit thread pointed out, there are plenty of other things that are much more potent when it comes to ruining even the strongest of bonds. Some of the worst things that lead to a breakup (that aren’t cheating) start out small and indiscernible, and that’s what makes them so dangerous.

1. Lying to and hiding things from your partner. Even if you’re doing it out of love to protect their feelings, keeping little things from someone you’re dating can grow into a big problem and cause trust issues that wreck a relationship. As canada432 wrote, “You should be able to tell your partner pretty much anything. If you’re hiding something because it would hurt them, then you probably shouldn’t do that thing in the first place.”

2. Withholding any kind of affection. Whether affection means being really touchy-feely, asking each other intense questions about meaningful things, or helping each other through obstacles, being absent and unaffectionate can cause the kind of doubts in a relationship that end up being irreparable.

3. Harbouring quiet resentment. As VoxMeretricis wrote, “by the time resentment is expressed, the damage is already done” to the relationship. It starts out quietly but becomes something big over time, which is what makes it so damaging.

4. Lack of communication. This doesn’t mean not texting all day every day, but failing to talk to each other about things that bother you when they come up, or conveniently leaving out details that you think might cause problems. All that poo just gets bottled up or revealed eventually, and by the time that happens, it’s usually unmanageable.

5. Being stubborn about things or getting entrenched in certain positions. This is just another way of saying “refusing to compromise.” If you like somebody, you should be willing to compromise. Partners who can only handle things if they go a certain way (their way) are basically just in relationships with themselves.

6. Bickering about mundane, daily issues and chores. Sure, the argument you always have about whose turn it is to take the trash out seems like no big deal now, but that’s the sort of thing that just becomes a great issue over time, and even worse, becomes ammo for bigger, more serious arguments down the road.

7. Condescension. Talking down to a partner is just another way of making yourself bigger or more powerful than them, and a power imbalance is the last thing you want in a lasting, healthy relationship. As messedfrombirth wrote, condescension is worse than cheating because “it makes your self esteem poo,” so even after the relationship ends, you still feel the damage.

When a man shows interest in a lady and tells her that he would love to know her better,most times in his heart this is exactly what he is saying: "Hi lady, can i get to have a taste of your goody-bag and have the feel of your body to know if you are good enough in bed and decide if i should keep you for long or dump your ass in a jiffy because i don't really care whether we end up together or not".

I honestly don't believe in dating and even as courtship sounds more reasonable,it is still not really necessary and i will try to list logical reasons why ladies should avoid this lie from the pits of hell called dating or courtship and i hope you learn a great deal from this.

1. A man usually knows if there is a huge possibility of marrying you or just want to use you to pass time the very first day he sets his eyes on you and a man who is really interested in a purposeful affair with you will give you the sign almost immediately with the body language except you refuse to be vigilant.

2. Many Men use dating and courtship as a means of exploring you sexually and probably after he realizes that your bosoms are not as firm as he wants them to be or your sex performance is below what he wants or after he has really used you to his satisfaction then he tells you it can't work out because his mum does not want him to marry from your tribe or just brings up any lame excuse and decides to walk away to get another lady to "date"

3. An Angel can turn to a demon: Many people have argued that dating period is a period where you will know the type of person you have but this assertion is very funny because a good person can turn terrible and most times even if the person seems bad many ladies will still go on and marry him with the hope of changing him.

4.Dating and courtship is a disguised miniature marriage because in many cases when a guy starts dating or courting you,you will be doing some stuffs that wives do and i keep wondering why they still see the union as dating or courting when he is practically having all the benefits he should get from a wife hence the need to continue dating and courting and dating and.. until you suddenly realized you have spent your honey years married unofficially to a man who will probably dump you to marry another lady still in the name of dating.

5.A thousand years of courtship is no guaranty that you will know the man and until you two stay under the same roof as man and wife,you will never come closer to knowing who he really is so why waste your years dating and courting.

6.Most of the marriages of our parents are great examples as most of our parents hardly knew each other before getting married yet many of them had a lasting and loving union but these days despite the celebrated dating and courting culture,many marriages hit the rock.

7.A good union is not hinged on the number of years both of you spend sleeping with each other in the name of dating or courtship but its in learning to love whoever you choose to marry and making up your mind to be with him against all odds.

8. I believe that for a man to ever propose an affair to you then he must have found you good enough to have to himself and for a decent lady to agree to an affair with a man then she is definitely ready to be with the man except she is a slut so why waste time fooling around with each other all in the name of getting to sleep with each other in the name of dating and courtship?

9. A sexless date or courtship is the ideal form of courting where both of you try to know just a peripheral detail about yourselves hence once sex comes in then its no longer dating but unofficial marital union.

10.The responsible and matured guys at heart knows the type of woman they want and do not get involved in baseless dating but simply go for the lady of their choice and marry her.

If you are not ready to marry a lady,don't make advances towards her just to waste her years sampling her and if you are a lady,stop fooling yourself thinking you are dating him whereas you are just giving him your body to be used and probably dumped and understand that dating and courtship are just facade from the pits of hell aimed at destroying the lives of ladies by becoming single unmarried mothers,losing their lives through abortions and many have contracted deadly diseases all in the name of dating.

Lets face it,a year of sexless courtship should be enough and one year is not too much to deprive yourself of sex in order to know that guy better and if a man does not start the process of marrying you within a year then it means you are either dating a small boy for the sake of having sex or you are probably with a man who is not sure he wants you.

I know that all the sermons in the world will not bring sanity to the facade of dating and courtship and if any lady sees this piece and shoves it aside,my advice to such is to continue to serve herself on the alter of sexual ecstasy for as many guys as possible in the name of baseless dating or courtship

Here’s a message I got from a lady who said she want people to know the reason for their action: Hello Nigeriacamera, I just want to tell you that it’s not our fault that we go about servicing all kinds of men for the sake of money.

Many guys do yahoo and armed robbery to survive but ladies can’t do all that and since we are aware that these men will always need women to enjoy their money with them, there is nothing bad if we make ourselves available for you men and we get paid for our professional services. Or can you people stay without a woman for one month?

We are just helping men with our body Times are hard. My parents can’t raise enough money for my school fees and my accommodation in school, so how will I feed, buy clothes, make-up and look good like other girls if I don’t help my self? Many ladies are doing it here in my school and even other schools. It is condition that caused it. People should understand that everything has changed!

Hair
Maintaining their gorgeous locks isn't the only
reason women go to their hairstylists so often.
The process of wash, cut, color, and styling can
actually be quite a stress reliever. Running your
hands gently through her hair is a surefire way to
send tingles down her spine.

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Nape of her neck
Once you get to the nape of her neck, place a few
light kisses there. In ancient Japan, the back of a
woman's neck was seen as very attractive by
men since it was one of the few places not
covered by clothing. In modern times, the nape of
the neck is often neglected in favor of more
obvious pleasure centers, but never underestimate
the power of gentle touches and kisses from her
hairline to her shoulders.

Clavicle
A well-defined clavicle, or collarbone, can be very
s#xy on a woman. Why not show your
appreciation for its beauty with your touch and
kiss? Pay attention to this body part while she's
still fully clothed, unbuttoning her shirt just
enough to reveal the clavicle and no further. You
can always come back to it once the clothes have
disappeared as well to remind her of the
anticipation it created when you started there.

Small of her back
The best way to guide your woman through a
crowd is to place your hand against the small of
her back. This small gesture shows that you feel
protective of her without being too pushy like an
arm around the shoulder might be. When you're
alone, kissing or licking down her spine to end up
with a kiss on the small of her back will get her
heart racing.

10 Body Spots Every Women Want To Be Touched

Behind her knees
This area is one that most men don't think of
when trying to stimulate a woman, but it is, in
fact, quite sensitive. Gently caressing the back of
the knee under her skirt while the two of you are
in a public place will make her ready to get busy
once you get home. Don't forget to pay some
more attention to this special spot once you're
alone too.

Palms of her hands
People often use their hands as tools to please
their partners, but rarely do they consider the
pleasure potential of stimulating the hands
themselves. The palm of a woman's hand is an
innocuous spot to focus a little attention on
without making people around you uncomfortable.
Tracing your finger along her palm will give her
delightful shivers and make you appear sensitive
and attentive.

Earlobes
Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the
earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for
her. These delicate, soft lobes are very sensitive
and most women thoroughly enjoy the sensation
of having a man's lips on them. You can nibble
around the outside of the rest of her ear as well,
but for courtesy's sake avoid jamming your
tongue inside her ear.

Feet
Pulp Fiction taught us that rubbing the feet of
another man's wife may be an offense punishable
by being thrown out a window, so the sensual
appeal of a foot massage is obvious. There are
few better ways to help her relax than to give her
feet a good rub, especially if her job requires her
to be on them all day. Do it right and grab some
massage oil or lotion. Don't forget to pay some
attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her
feet too. Some women really enjoy having their
toes s*cked, but others find it repulsive, so asking
first is a good idea before putting them in your
mouth.

8 Annoying Places Stingy And Broke Guys Take Their Lady's To For A Date

Guys need not break a bank for a lady to trip or impress her when on a date but that is not excusable to suggest awkward places to boycott spending most especially when you know she is not the gold digging type.

It's rather a disgrace to manhood seeing places where some stingy/broke guys suggest for dating and these places are;

1. Their Houses

Often times, guys who fall under this category are not only broke or stingy but sex starved. There's actually nothing wrong with this, just that some do that just to get under her pant.

2. Mama Put Restaurant

Broke guys suggest local restaurant for babes because of the erroneous belief that Sweet Sensation foods and co. are cancerous due to the form of processing.

3. Public School Class

I shake my head when I see grown up adults caressing themselves in public schools. Of all places, why should it be a roofless classroom? "Some Babes Self No Get Self Worth At All". Only broke or stingy dudes suggest this kind of shameful arena for date.

4. Church Premises

This is a common practice in some churches especially during weekly programmes. You will see a broke brother and Sister at the church backyard professing their love, and in some cases, bleeping each other.

5. Library

Broke dudes (most especially students) seek excuse to spend big by inviting a lady to see them at a library. When she comes, they engage her in extensive discussion without buying a single item for her.

6. Road-by Shops

This is a style broke and stingy guys adopt by telling a lady to meet them at a road by shop. Knowing fully well that the commodities within the shop are not off budget (biscuit, pure water and soft drinks), they will ask the lady when she comes to mention anything she wants to eat as if he is a billionaire.
7. Pepper Soup Joint

The cost of pepper soup in mama Ngozi's spot is quite cheaper than that of Mr. Biggs, Mr. Fans and Sweet Sensation where a plate of pepper soup costs 2k, therefore, na dia we dey carry dem go. Haba !!! Na money for one jean trouser be dat

8. Under Iroko Tree

This reminds me of a date I went with a female nairalander. Make I no lie, na only N100 dey my hand dat day. To avoid embarrassment wey go make her go open thread say upon all my forming for nairaland, I no get shishi for pocket, na so I pitch my tent with the babe for one tree, begin form say better breeze no dey blow for inside Mr. Fans, so I prefer say make we pitch our tent under mango tree

Going on a date is a stressful event in itself, so the last thing you want is any added stress by deciding what or what not to wear! To get the right outfit sorted, all that's needed is a bit of planning and a few key tips.

1. Too much make-up

If you look like you’ve dipped your head into a bucket of paint, there’s a chance he may be asking what you’ve got to hide. Many men rate too much make-up and perfume as a turn-off and even a sign of insecurity.

Highlight your assets, conceal your flaws, but don’t go overboard, especially if it’s a 'day date'. For night, choose to accentuate one feature – such as your eyes. And be careful about wearing too much lippie – especially if you want a good night kiss! Same goes for too much fake tan.

2. Too much perfume

A man should never be able to smell you before he sees you, but the trouble with your favourite perfume is that after a week or so, you can’t actually smell it on yourself. It’s natural when you’re nervous or want to make a good impression to go a little overboard. To avoid this, especially if your perfume is particularly strong and musky, spray it into the air and walk into the scent so you don’t assault his nostrals!

3. Sky high heels

Before you pull out your stilts, consider the date you’re going on. If you’re going for a picnic in the park or a walk on the beach, platform pumps probably aren’t the best option. And no matter how great they look, if you’re not comfortable and hobbling because of blisters, you’re not going to enjoy yourself.

Also consider your date’s height – if he’s shorter than you, it may make him feel uncomfortable. Height rules are still important in the dating game and unless he is really tall, towering over him in heels (no matter how hot they are) can be intimidating.

4. Fashion forward trends

Your outfit hot off the couture runways in Paris may get wows from the girls, but if you go over the top, it may not have the same effect on your guy. If fashion forward is your thing, then by all means go loud and proud and don’t tone down your fabulousness, but if you were thinking about wearing your meat dress and lobster hat, then perhaps save this for date two.

5. Too casual

Something that constantly rates as the top turn-off for women is men being dressed inappropriately for the occasion – but this is also goes the other way. Men always appreciate women who go to an effort. Unless you’re going for a hike or the beach, leave the trackies and flip flops for a pizza and movie night.

6. Overdressed

If you are not sure of how 'dressed up' an occasion is likely to be, being dolled up for a ball can be embarrassing. If this is the case, it’s best to go a little more casual, but wear something that you can adapt to suit the circumstances – such as a blazer or smart jacket.

10 Types Of Women You Should Never Marry

While we can all agree that nobody is perfect, there are actually a few things that would adversely affect a
relationship if a man chooses to partner with a woman with some not-so-great attributes.
1. The Bitter Woman: You know that woman that always seems to be angry at the menfolk all the time? Perhaps she
has had her heart broken one too many times, but this woman is always bashing on men and talking about how they
are no-good or useless. A man might not want to settle down with someone so bitter as it is guaranteed that when
the opportunity arises, she would hurl hurtful insults and intense, hateful words his way due to all her unresolved
anger.
2. The Selfish Woman: If you want a happy home and a partner that wants your happiness as well as hers, then you
should steer clear of the selfish woman. A woman who is determined to make sure she always comes first would not
be able to build a cheerful and loving home with you.
3. The Materialistic Woman: A woman obsessed with material things would certainly not make the best wife. If all
she cares about are material possession over family, faith and spiritual fulfillment, then she will not make the best
partner.
4. The Flirty Woman: Are you attracted to that woman that always seems to flirt with one person or another? She
flirts like a butterfly from one man to another and makes all men feel like she is interested in them. Well, beware,
because a habit like that might be hard to break after marriage and you would not want to start hearing that your
wife has had flirty conversations with all the men in the neighbourhood.
5. The Party Freak: She is invited to every party and attends them all. She is always dressed in the most flashy
clothes and is the ultimate party girl. She lives for the next big gathering and cannot say no to an invitation. Such
woman might not be the type to settle down in a marriage.
6. The Spoilt-Brat: A woman who grew up having everything handed to her and has never had the experience of
actually working for something is unlikely to make the best wife. No matter how much you might be willing to
provide her with the kind of lifestyle she grew up with, remember, marriage comes with kids and kids require
sacrifice. If she has never had to work or make sacrifices for anything in her life, it is unlikely that she would start
now.
7. The Attention Seeker: While some women naturally like attention, when it becomes an obsession, then it is not a
good idea. A good husband makes sure he has time for his wife, but this cannot happen 100percent of the time so a
good wife should understand that.
8. The Gossip: Does she always seem to never mind her own business? Is she always focused on what someone else
is doing or how someone else is living their life? Then you do not need this kind of woman as a wife. A man needs
someone that would build a home with him and this requires some focus on her own plans and her own life. If she is
too busy minding someone else’s business, then you are fighting a losing battle.
9. The Commitment-Phobe: A woman who finds it difficult to commit to anything (school, jobs, family, friendship,
etc) would also not be able to commit to a marriage. If she seems to lose interest in everything quickly and is
always looking for the next thing to jump into, then you would have a hard time keeping her focused in her marriage.
10. The Disrespectful Woman: If she seems to always be disrespectful and rude (even if it is to people she considers
beneath her standards) then you need to think twice about marrying her. Respect for a fellow human being is a very
important attribute in who we choose to spend the rest of our lives with so it is definitely not something that should
be taken lightly.

OPINION: Why Some Ladies Can't Get Married or Stay In Marriage

A marriage can only survive on the alter of sincerity
but, sadly you can't get the truth from cheap people.
It has been observed that some ladies are liars and
in some instance greedy to a fault. If you are not true
to yourself then it would be difficult for you to be
true to the man who want to marry you.
This is the dilemma many ladies find themselves
today. Our men always have their eyes on many
ladies and in Africa it is not a crime to have more
than one woman. For your man to discipline himself
and be ready to stay with you sincerely, you need to
feed him with truth and confidence, always.
Below are some of the things I see affecting our
young ladies:
Our ladies end up single or chased out by their
husband due to too much media exposure -
It is disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on
her mobile phone from morning to night, only to
raise it up and focus on television to watch fake
celebrity entertainment. Tell me, what else will
dominate the mindset of such ladies aside how to
live the fake lifestyles they see on social media and
TV?
Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home
chores -
Because they had been totally brainwashed by
movies showcasing men playing the role of women
in a family, and due to excessive exposure to
American media that promotes gender-equality in a
destructive way, our ladies are loosing their place in
their husband's heart. African family setting is
unique and that is why previous African marriages
last longer and envious to the whites.
With this attitude, how do you expect an African man
to desire to marry you who claim to be a modern
lady when he knows he is only buying more
headache and trouble than helper for himself?
You Don't Bring Value Into The Life Of The Man You
Marry or Are Dating -
Your best friend married without contributing
anything to the man that married her, doesn't mean
it will work for you that way. Think, work towards
equipping yourself so that you can be a value and
also add value to his life to convince him that you
are worth committing to.
Adding value to his life isn't by giving him money,
or material gifts, nope... be a good wife, respectful,
stay away from your mother or friends evil counsels,
and above all be his best friend, helping him attain
his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and
spiritual support.
Your Mother and Friends Run Your Life -
How do you expect your husband or the man you are
dating to trust you when you still allow your mum
and clique of friends to be dictating which man you
meet is worthy of your love and which is not?
When will you wake up and face the fact that some
of your so called best friends may not want you to
marry the best man and that your own mother may
just be destroying your life for her selfish reason?
Lack of Manners, Character, Wisdom and Good Home
Upbringing -
Your 'hot girl', 'pretty girl' looks will win you men;
both the good and the bad, but your inner beauty,
your character and manner are the things that will
determine whether a man would marry you and, most
importantly, keep you in his house as a cherished
wife.
Ladies, to achieve this, do away with being
possessive, challenging your man, manipulating him
for selfish purpose. A decent man will love you, once
you prove yourself worthy as a responsible lady.
Do not allow yourself to become a victim while trying
to be too smart. Be humble, reap a good reward!
by Mrs Daramola

10 traits cheating men have in common

While some signs are too obvious to ignore about a man that cheats, inluding lipstick stains, odd perfume smell, keeping late nights, others are subtle. Here 10 traits cheating men have in common.

1. He doesn’t respect his own mother

If he disrespects to her mother, he is more likely to disrespect you.

2. He is a self-centered narcissist.

3. He feels powerful.

4. He has low self-esteem.

5. He gives in to his vices.

6. He suddenly gets very critical.

7. He flirts with everyone.

8. He suffers from forgetfulness.

9. He is more aloof.

10. He becomes less affectionate
Source: http://thesummary.com.ng/index.php/k2-tags/lifestyle/item/880-10-traits-cheating-men-have-in-common

What are the essential ingredients in an ideal relationship?
In the middle of a workshop recently a pertinent question was asked about what creates the ideal relationship.
We were asked to think of a relationship we had in the last week that in one’s mind was ideal, and to think of what it was about it that made it ideal.
A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes.
To each of these men, these things felt comfortable and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.
A number of women considered kitchen appliances, favorite clothes or shoes, old friends, neighbours, and treasured items in their lives, and the bond that they had created either between people or with items they used in their lives.
Words such as reliable, dependable, and comforting were used.
When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, requiring only food, shelter, and love.
No matter how my day has been or what kind of mood I’m in, when I get home at night, I’m greeted in such an authentic, transparent, and enthusiastic fashion. My dog is always excited to see me, and it’s very humbling when you consider it.
I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. His needs are few, yet he gives so much. I call this unconditional love.
So what is unconditional love?
It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect.
You know by now your spouse has faults. You know your spouse is not perfect. You know your spouse makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. You love your spouse because of those imperfections rather than in spite of them.
This is unconditional love.
The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay.
That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.
So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with thoughts and emotions, trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues become bigger than they really are and rule our lives.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, the key is in finding ways to place the emotional clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It’s okay to have faults and make mistakes.
It’s okay to have thoughts and feelings. But above all of this is the love you have for your spouse, the love you have for one another. And love will conquer them all.
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Australian trafficker marries before Indonesia execution

An Australian drug trafficker married his girlfriend Monday on the Indonesian prison island where he is set to be executed soon, his brother said, urging the country’s president to show compassion to the newlyweds.

Andrew Chan, 31, married his Indonesian girlfriend Febyanti Herewila in a ceremony on Nusakambangan Island, home to several high-security prisons, his brother Michael said.

He could be put to death by firing squad as soon as Tuesday, along with seven other foreign drug convicts, after authorities at the weekend gave then formal notice of their executions.

“We’ve had a special day today,” Michael Chan said as he announced the marriage after returning from a visit to Nusakambangan. “We’ve celebrated with some family and close friends.

“Hopefully the president will show some compassion, some mercy, so these two young people can carry on with their lives.

“It’s in the president’s hands.”

Chan met his future wife several years ago when Herewila, a pastor, began helping inmates in the jail where the Australian was imprisoned.

Chan and fellow Australian Myuran Sukumaran, both among the group facing imminent execution, are ringleaders of the so-called “Bali Nine” heroin-smuggling gang and were sentenced to death in 2006.

Australia has mounted a diplomatic campaign to save the pair but President Joko Widodo has vowed there will be no clemency for drug traffickers on death row in Indonesia.

He says the country faces an emergency due to rising narcotics use.

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Waiting to get engaged but still no ring in sight? Don't fret just yet.

Are you waiting for your man to propose and not sure when he's going to do it? Don't fret; here are five steps that will help to put your worried mind at ease.

1. Figure out if you're looking for a proposal or just validation. Write down three reasons you want him to propose. If you find yourself thinking that a proposal will show that he really loves you or you're worried that if he doesn't propose he might break up with you, you may not be ready to get married. If your partnership is strong, you'll know that he loves and is committed to you, and you won't need an offer of marriage to tell you that.

2. Wait as long as you can. Especially if you're in your 20s. He could be waiting to get a better job, he could be saving for the ring or he could just be waiting until he's a little older — none of this means he doesn't want to marry you. And keep in mind that the longer you wait, the stronger your relationship will be.

3.. Don't assume that your man is on the same page as you are just because you are ready for marriage. Talk to him about it, but remember not to try and push him into making a decision about whether he will or will not propose to you.

4. Give him a lot of freedom. Never give him a hard time about hanging out with his friends. Sooner or later he will realize that he has a good thing going and will not want to lose you. And certainly the only way he will get to keep you all to himself is by proposing marriage to you.

5. Leave subtle hints about your readiness for marriage by leaving magazine articles about marriage and couples on his dining table. Don't go so far as to lay out bridal magazines or pictures of wedding bands since this will scare your man off.

Read This: Warning Signs In A Relationship

1. He Constantly Checks In on You

If your sweetie's attentive and asks you about your life, that's fantastic. But if he constantly calls you and expects a full report on where you've been and who you've been with, then something more sinister's going on.

2. She Lies to You

Relationships can't survive unless you trust each other, and if your partner abuses that trust by lying to you, it's a relationship that isn't worth keeping. A couple of white lies are forgivable. Lying regularly, or lying about important stuff, is absolutely not.

3. He Won't Let You Talk to Other Guys

Don't stand for this form of relationship abuse. You're allowed to talk to anyone of any gender you want. If your sweetie is suspicious of something, he should have a mature conversation with you about it, but he's not allowed to control your behavior.

4. She Threatens to Hurt Herself

When someone tells you something like, "I'll kill myself if you break up with me," they're using fear and guilt to manipulate you. Any threat should be taken seriously, so speak to a parent or counselor about it. But you don't have to play along.

5. He Loses His Temper Quickly

Everyone gets mad sometimes, and that's okay. But if your sweetie snaps at you over the tiniest things and blames you for things that aren't your fault, then something's wrong (and it's not you).

6. She Embarrasses You in Public

No one who loves you (or even likes you a lot) should ever make you feel bad about yourself. Doing it in public - by calling you names or making fun of you when other people are watching - is especially cruel, and you don't have to stand for it.

7. He Forces You to Have Sex

Sex doesn't just mean intercourse. It can mean a whole range of sexual activities including oral sex or even just touching. If your partner forces you to do anything physical that you don't want to do, get out of the relationship.

8. She Keeps You Away From Your Friends

Abusers are pretty smart. They know that if your friends found out the truth, they'd tell you to get out of the relationship lickety-split. By pushing your friends away, abusers are trying to protect themselves. Don't let them.

9. He Looks at Your Phone

No one - not even the love of your life - has the right to monitor your calls and texts. And you're allowed to be in contact with whomever you want (even your exes). If your sweetie disagrees, he's trying to control you, and that's a form of abuse.

10. She Does Anything That Scares You in Any Way

This could meanphysical violence, the threat of violence, harsh words or dangerous behavior of any kind. Bottom line: if you're scared to be around someone - even someone you love - don't be around them any more. Break it off right away. If you want additional help, check out the links below.

6 Signs That Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend is Using You

Every time you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend, it's a good idea to step back and ask yourself: "Am I sure that they're dating me for the right reasons?" More often than not, they will be...but if you're too blinded by love, it's easy to miss the fact that your new boyfriend or girlfriend is using you for something other than fun & friendship.

If even one of these signs is true, it's a big fat red flag that you're being used:

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1. All He Wants to Do is Make Out

Don't get me wrong - kissing is great. But relationships are also about getting to know each other better and having good, clean fun. If your boyfriend has no interest in any one-on-one activities besides hooking up, then don't kid yourself: he doesn't really want to be your boyfriend. He just wants to be your makeout partner.

2. She Likes Your Friends More Than She Likes You

Did your girlfriend beg you to take her to the "popular" party - but once you got there, she barely even acknowledged you? Is she more interested in mingling with your friends than hanging out with you one-on-one? She might be using you for status, or to get closer to a pal of yours who she likes more than she likes you.

3. He Tries to Force You to Go Further Than You Want to Go

Once you've made it clear that you don't want to go any further physically (and you shouldalways make it clear), your boyfriend should know to stop immediately. If he tries to push past your limit just once, he's not respecting you like a good boyfriend should.

4. She's Obsessed With Getting You Alone

A girlfriend who likes you for you will be happy to hang out with your friends, your little sister or even your parents for a while. If she's always hurrying them out of the room, she's probably not interested in connecting with you as a person...and it's possible that she's just using you as someone to kiss.

5. He Asks You for Things That He Won't Give Back

A boyfriend should respect every aspect of you, including your stuff. If you're always paying for things and he never offers to chip in, or if you lend him stuff that he never gives back, then he's not treating you with the respect you deserve.

6. She Won't Be Your Official Girlfriend

Maybe she's seeing another guy on the side, or maybe she's carrying a flame for her ex. Whatever the reason, if her status still says "single" (either on Facebook

or in the real world), she's not ready for an emotional commitment. She's not a real girlfriend - she's using you. And that's not worth settling for.

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