A marriage can only survive on the alter of sincerity
but, sadly you can't get the truth from cheap people.
It has been observed that some ladies are liars and
in some instance greedy to a fault. If you are not true
to yourself then it would be difficult for you to be
true to the man who want to marry you.
This is the dilemma many ladies find themselves
today. Our men always have their eyes on many
ladies and in Africa it is not a crime to have more
than one woman. For your man to discipline himself
and be ready to stay with you sincerely, you need to
feed him with truth and confidence, always.
Below are some of the things I see affecting our
young ladies:
Our ladies end up single or chased out by their
husband due to too much media exposure -
It is disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on
her mobile phone from morning to night, only to
raise it up and focus on television to watch fake
celebrity entertainment. Tell me, what else will
dominate the mindset of such ladies aside how to
live the fake lifestyles they see on social media and
TV?
Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home
chores -
Because they had been totally brainwashed by
movies showcasing men playing the role of women
in a family, and due to excessive exposure to
American media that promotes gender-equality in a
destructive way, our ladies are loosing their place in
their husband's heart. African family setting is
unique and that is why previous African marriages
last longer and envious to the whites.
With this attitude, how do you expect an African man
to desire to marry you who claim to be a modern
lady when he knows he is only buying more
headache and trouble than helper for himself?
You Don't Bring Value Into The Life Of The Man You
Marry or Are Dating -
Your best friend married without contributing
anything to the man that married her, doesn't mean
it will work for you that way. Think, work towards
equipping yourself so that you can be a value and
also add value to his life to convince him that you
are worth committing to.
Adding value to his life isn't by giving him money,
or material gifts, nope... be a good wife, respectful,
stay away from your mother or friends evil counsels,
and above all be his best friend, helping him attain
his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and
spiritual support.
Your Mother and Friends Run Your Life -
How do you expect your husband or the man you are
dating to trust you when you still allow your mum
and clique of friends to be dictating which man you
meet is worthy of your love and which is not?
When will you wake up and face the fact that some
of your so called best friends may not want you to
marry the best man and that your own mother may
just be destroying your life for her selfish reason?
Lack of Manners, Character, Wisdom and Good Home
Upbringing -
Your 'hot girl', 'pretty girl' looks will win you men;
both the good and the bad, but your inner beauty,
your character and manner are the things that will
determine whether a man would marry you and, most
importantly, keep you in his house as a cherished
wife.
Ladies, to achieve this, do away with being
possessive, challenging your man, manipulating him
for selfish purpose. A decent man will love you, once
you prove yourself worthy as a responsible lady.
Do not allow yourself to become a victim while trying
to be too smart. Be humble, reap a good reward!
by Mrs Daramola
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