Once a lady is brought up without her parents
inculcating the virtues of discipline and hardwork in
her, just any one will climb her, so long as she will
get money from the escapade. But it goes beyond
that.
From the times of old, the kingdom of love suffereth
emotional violence and only sharp babes take it by
force. A new marriage culture seems to be taking
place in Nigeria. It has been discovered that younger
women preferred marrying older men who are
advanced enough to be their fathers and this virus is
catching on fast.
When the late Owelle of Onitsha and first President
of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, Dr Nnamdi
Azikiwe, in his late ages declared his intention to
then marry his youngest wife, Uche, a member of the
renowned Afikpo traditional dance named 'Nkwa
Nwite' which entertained him when he visited Afikpo,
Nigerians cried blue. Reason was because of the age
difference. Zik was then in his 70s while Uche was
barely 16 years. The marriage took place and today,
the rest they say is history.
In 1989, it was publicized that Bianca Odumegwu-
Ojukwu was dating the late former Biafran Head of
State and Ikemba of Nnewi Chukwuemeka Odumegwu
Ojukwu, a political associate of her father. Ojukwu
who was alleged to be over thirty years her age later
married her. By early 1990s, Bianca Onoh, became
Bianca Odumegwu-Ojukwu.
Not done, Shade married business mogul Okoya
Thomas when she was 18 years in 2002. Later, there
were reports that ex- beauty queen; Susan Hart is
'reportedly' married to Chief Sunny Kuku.
72-year-old Nigerian billionaire, Emmanuel
Iwuanyanwu, a politician, statesman and Chairman of
the Champion Newspaper, created controversy after
getting married to a girl almost 50 years his junior
and tied the proverbial nuptial knot with 26-year-old
Frances Chinonyerem Enwerem in a traditional
ceremony that took place in Owerri, Imo State,
Capital. The wedding comes two years after
Iwuanyanwu, lost his wife Eudora Iwuanyanwu, to
cancer. Frances is reported to be the daughter of one
of Iwuanyanwu's late wife's close friends.
Trailing behind Iwuanyanwu in this new marriage
culture is Emeka Offor, businessman and a contractor
from Anambra State. Ofor reported to be in his sixties
secretly took another wife. He performed the
traditional rite for the marriage of a 24-year old girl
as the fourth wife. The ceremony took place at the
residence of the father of the bride, Alexander Okey
Ufondu, at Umuezeopi in Oraifite, Ekwusigo Local
Government Area of Anambra State. The bride named
Adaora lives with his husband in the highbrow
district of Maitama in Nigeria's Federal Capital
Territory of Abuja.The wedding generated ripples in
the religious communities of Oraifite, the hometown
of both Mr Offor and his new father in law, Mr
Ufondu, an Onitsha-based trader.
Why are young women marrying older men who are
old enough to be their Fathers age mates? Lailas
Blog spoke with Nigerians of diverse persuasion and
their responses are detailed below:
Onyanwe Aku Uche attributes it to poverty.
According to the student of Abia State University,
it's money and status only. Uche is of the view that
such marriages lead to adultery and
promiscuousness because, he believes that the old
men cannot be able to s*xually perform their bed
responsibilities.
According to him, no marriage survives without s*x
even though they enjoy such marriages, the girls are
accused of pretending in such marriages.
"This is strictly for the money, does she want to call
it love? Why will the children support such a
marriage? Marriage counsels said such marriages
doesn't last because the death of the man nullifies
such marriages and the young girl would now go
and marry the young ones they love with the late old
man's money.
Oluokun Stephen stated that all the essence is for
money, status and security. When there is money,
women will marry anything inside trouser, it is
obvious that such girls will be getting s*x
elsewhere."
But a lady disagrees.
Anna Unachukwu: "We unfortunately want to create a
kind of civilization that has no basis for rationality,
and who told you that old men cannot have s*x? Is
she complaining that her man cannot satisfy her
s*xually? You forget that men's urge for s*x still
lives with them even when they are eighty but it is
not the same for women when she reaches
menopause.
Have you ever slept with an old man and found him
incompetent? Many ladies who marry people not old
enough to be their fathers still go in the closet to
use dildos and vibrators. Is your understanding of
marriage only based on s*x? Where is
companionship?"
Sociologist, Chinedu Ukwu blamed Nigeria economy
for such marriage. He was of the view that if the
nation's economy should improve where the girls
could get job and take care of themselves, most of
the older men would be rejected when they approach
most of these girls for marriage.
Another funny angle
Clare Okpala said that it serves the old men right.
She said that such girls are on revenge mission to
what some boys have done to their older female
lovers. She said that the young ladies perch on the
oldies for their money and would dump them when
they have gotten what they want.
"Serves the older perverts right, for marrying women
young enough to be their daughters/
granddaughters."
Ladies, should you marry on right priorities or simply
because of money and greed? There are
consequences for whatever option you chose; both
good and bad. The ball is on your court.
Research credits: Bishop and Pope
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